don't be a dick
1. Instead of victimizing yourself, make use of what you’re feeling. Cry. Write. Reach out to a friend. But don’t stomp your feet and make a sad face hoping someone will save you. Be realistic. Pick yourself up.
2. Don’t be afraid to say you are excited or irritated. If there is good reason, there is good conversation to be made.
3. Get a notepad and a calendar. Write your goals on your notepad and write on the calendar specifically when you’re gonna do them. You will not get them done otherwise.
4. Stop the idea that texting first to make plans is bad. We’re all lazy. Friends want to hang out with you but just don’t take initiative. Be the friend that makes all the plans. Who cares. Life’s short and you need to make use of the people who are available to you at this moment.
5. Don’t lurk on people’s social media. Not the person you’re jealous of. Not the person you pity. Not your crush or your ex’s. Life is organic. Relationships are organic. Get to know someone in real life. With every post you see, the more your brain manifests ideas that you can’t even confirm about someone.
6. No matter how old you are, your voice is important to someone. Speak up. Be passionate.
7. Laugh at awkward situations instead of getting mad at yourself. Not only does it help you, but everyone around you too.
8. Charisma is overrated.
9. On that note, try to get to know everyone, including shy people, extroverted people, and everyone in between. Be warm. Be a light. People are interesting and they always have something to offer to you.
10. If someone needs help, give it. Not just a push, but give like you mean it. Wholeheartedly make someone understand what it is like to be recognized and supported. This applies to both paying for a strangers meal and when a friend comes to you after a hard day.
11. Don’t reduce yourself to traits. You are you. Every part of you comes together to make a unique person. Don’t depend on being the “artist” or the “good runner.” Yes you are that, but you are also a million other things. Recognize all of who you are and don’t compare yourself to others.
12. Two things you need to do more to make you feel warm and happy inside: eating breakfast for dinner and having long hugs.
13. Be thankful for everything. The drink you are slowly sipping on. The tree in your yard. Your family. Your bed.
14. Go out and listen to live music. You’ll find something meaningful.
15. People will insult you. Respond kindly and try to hear them out. It’s the most you can do.
16. If you want to make positive change then do it. Don’t let the past 5 minutes or 5 years define you. You don’t have to explain yourself to people who question or mock you. Be the best you.
17. Love.
Darth Vader but every time he breaths you hear a harmonica
(via spongebobssquarepants)
